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Expectations from a 'FRIEND'... I should have known. If promises were made to be broken, what more of an unpromise(s)? Or just the product of an overzealous imagination. Long ago, told myself to learn to put a wall between 'FRIENDSHIP' and 'LOVE'. I got a grip of solidity regarding the matter but caught unaware as I was slipping away from it, because of being..ah..uhm.. well, being loveless or lack of romance or being alone/single, whatever..  I put a lot of emphasis and wrong translations over words he said. Ok, I must admit, went gaga hoping for 'love' when in fact - twas the word but not the meaning alright. In my craving for that feeling, I overlooked the fact - I'm anticipating it from another human being. Yes, and we don't share the same high hopes. Mine is organically simple - the start of a love affair. For him, its just pure "FRIENDSHIP', an inspiration to go through life with a touch of feministic views on the side. Maybe, I'm just wasn't his type. In its blandness, my heart bled. I'm afraid I will never learn. As long as there's 'hope' there will always be moments like this, time of disenchantment. Notice the adjective - come what may, I still believe in fairy tales. Someday, my prince will come.. And we will live happily ever after...  
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3/12/2013 1:30 pm |
I.nteresting blog...always keep your expectation open...love and loving a real complex issues...have a great day
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Thet, Why is it so easy for some woman to catch her man. While others are left heart broken? What are we doing wrong? For me there is no more hope or fairy tales... Enjoy the beautiful day  Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...
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3/12/2013 2:58 pm |
Thet, it's not easy for someone to admit having been into an "expectant friendship". You probably are right, in the sense that because you were longing for some kind of romance, him, being there, just gave you that hope. Although, I won't dismiss the idea that he also "led" you to it, and gave you the right signals without the sincere intention to make true what could have been a real thing. Just call me ELZ 
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3/12/2013 3:03 pm |
And you know what? there is NO sense comparing how women should love versus a man. First of all, it is the MAN's place to court a woman or show/write his feelings towards her, whether that love is reciprocated or not...For me, if the man did not say/write/show it, there is NO relationship at all  ..Just my two cents... Just call me ELZ
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Hey Theta, I liked you the first time I met you and liked you more the second time. It's not to many women that I've said that. You're an intelligent lovable lady. There will a lot more pretenders and one of them will be your prince. Always be on the look out so as not to miss him. Hugs and kisses. I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything 
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By the way, I got a rise out of that your read only blog I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything
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Jeff, I'll drink with you  anytime. I always hope, hence, always expect. I never associated 'unconditional love' to 'romantic love' for if I love a person - I wanted that person to return my love - an 'expendable love' My unconditional love is in the other quadrant of my heart where my kids, parents, siblings, friends etc. resides..
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I.nteresting blog...always keep your expectation open...love and loving a real complex issues...have a great day I always do keep my expectations high and open. The thing that gets me so excited nowadays - chasing a dream. Thank you for visiting my blog. Have a great warm days ahead 
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Thet, Why is it so easy for some woman to catch her man. While others are left heart broken? What are we doing wrong? For me there is no more hope or fairy tales... Enjoy the beautiful day Maybe its destiny that other women find their mates early or the other way around. Nothings wrong with us 'te. Only, we missed our man by a mere fraction of a second Wait till the next rotation. Kidding dear sis, dont lose hope its the only word that has a positive connotation to it. Despite, its great being in love..
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Tajane, Right you are 'te. The existing relationship is beneficial to both of us - for that reason alone - it's worth it. I'll just got to live with it and tapered my romantic expectations. I will definitely enjoy the friendship and the 'fringe benefits'...nyay Count me in that Subic escapades. Which reminds me to lower my carbs intake for that summer bod. Luv yah..Take good care
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Thet, it's not easy for someone to admit having been into an "expectant friendship". You probably are right, in the sense that because you were longing for some kind of romance, him, being there, just gave you that hope. Although, I won't dismiss the idea that he also "led" you to it, and gave you the right signals without the sincere intention to make true what could have been a real thing. I have always been up front with everything, too honest sometimes it feels like a liability. But I dont know how to deal with anything other than that. It's like letting somebody to look directly to my soul. Ah, must be that..and he's afraid of what he saw. There could be reasons but one thing stands out - he's not ready for me..
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And you know what? there is NO sense comparing how women should love versus a man. First of all, it is the MAN's place to court a woman or show/write his feelings towards her, whether that love is reciprocated or not...For me, if the man did not say/write/show it, there is NO relationship at all ..Just my two cents...
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'te Pam, Thank you 'te. You know what I mean..That beautiful email you sent my way and the most romantic and lovable thoughts. Deeply appreciated  I have found true friends here. For someone who have nothing to say but a few - I can read between the lines. Luv you back with lots of hugs and kisses
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Hey Theta, I liked you the first time I met you and liked you more the second time. It's not to many women that I've said that. You're an intelligent lovable lady. There will a lot more pretenders and one of them will be your prince. Always be on the look out so as not to miss him. Hugs and kisses. Thats so sweetttt. Its also a privilege meeting you, wise, galante, a man with a penc...uppss, Im starting to type clever and then I remember 'cleavage'.. One of the honest few. Thats you. I will remember the 'pretenders' but I'll focus more on the 'prince'.. Thank you for being a friend in its 'no malice' form Miss you too. Hugs back Kisses ahh ummm...sa noo
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By the way, I got a rise out of that your read only blog
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3/13/2013 7:33 pm |
Better to part with love and longing for a friend before it gets to the bitter, stale and loveless stage. Your fond memories will remain intact. Don't lost hope yet. Good to see you sis Theta back blogging. Thanks for sharing the read only posts too.  Agree with Senior.   within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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3/14/2013 6:51 am |
Thet, that is why, it's really hard to cross the bridge and burn it afterwards...  Just call me ELZ
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Yes Jeff, you never stop loving a person just because he or she can't return your love. But time comes that you let that love aside and open your heart to a new love. It's always there but you'll forget eventually... Happy weekend
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Better to part with love and longing for a friend before it gets to the bitter, stale and loveless stage. Your fond memories will remain intact.Don't lost hope yet. Good to see you sis Theta back blogging. Thanks for sharing the read only posts too. Agree with Senior.If friendship is all there was to it - so be it. I can live with that than nothing. After all, he's a nice generous friend Glad you enjoyed my 'read only'..A product of over imaginative mind, nothing to that really (???) Happy weekend sis. Stay beautiful.
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Blue, Thank you for sharing. Yeah, I never lose my 'hope' and my dream of finding my one true prince. Regardless of everything as long as he can accept and keep me in his heart - he will be the one. One day soon..Hopeful as everyone else looking for that 'LOVE' keeping my fingers crossed over my heart. Happy weekend sis
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Thet, that is why, it's really hard to cross the bridge and burn it afterwards... A one way bridge to heartaches..Never again But its just mere words not a promise anymore I have a weak countenance nowadaysHappy weekend get away..Enjoy
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Merian, Yap...so true now - I guess I have to live with it. There's nothing that is awe surprising anymore nowadays - anything goes. Thanks for dropping by..
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3/19/2013 2:54 am |
Thets, Well at least he is honest and didn`t take advantage of your feelings....the hard thing is when a man let you fall and not willing to catch you, find it so uncaring Be careful next time, no let go of feeling unless sure. oh well, who I am to advise anyway! You never loose hope and that`s great attitude you have sistah:* hugs!
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3/20/2013 7:48 pm |
From a humble magbabalut's point of view:  You went wrong when you began to expect something in return. You reach out to others be it for friendship or for love, you DO because it is in your heart to do. For when you do things with some expectant reciprocation - that will be your waterloo Know that friendship and love(and perhaps acceptance) is something we do not go out searching for - we do our way and let our lights shine by being the best we can, and then let others take notice of the "brilliance" that we hold within - People will naturally be attracted to you when the "shine" that makes you, "YOU" is noticed *bow
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Thets, Well at least he is honest and didn`t take advantage of your feelings....the hard thing is when a man let you fall and not willing to catch you, find it so uncaring Be careful next time, no let go of feeling unless sure. oh well, who I am to advise anyway! You never loose hope and that`s great attitude you have sistah hugs!Oh no, I let him do the talking and the moves..and when he didn't make any - thats when I realized - it wasn't me he's looking for. We're meant to be just friends and I am happy with that. Happy weekend sis. Muahss.
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